Ways you can support babies and young children with their feelings
Helping Your Baby or Young Child Cope with Change & Stress
Young children are sensitive to changes in their routines and environments. Babies can notice and feel shifts in their surroundings, including their parents' moods. They may sense worry or fear, even from conversations in another room or the TV in the background.
Supporting your child's feelings
- Be Honest, but keep it simple: When discussing changes, use simple language that your child can understand. Avoid overwhelming them with unnecessary details.
- Answer their questions: Address any questions your child has so that worries don't build up over time.
- Provide reassurance: Babies and young children need soothing and reassurance. Comfort them with your presence, physical affection, and gentle words.
Think about their feelings
- Observe and engage: Play with your child, listen, and pay attention to their behavior to understand how they’re feeling.
- Be the source of comfort: As a parent, you are the best person to help your child feel safe and understood, especially when you know what is worrying them.
- Sometimes worry comes from unexpected places: Children can worry about things you might not expect, so it's important to be patient and attentive.
Think about your feelings
- Acknowledge your own emotions: There’s no "normal" way to feel during stressful times. Recognise your feelings and give yourself permission to take care of your emotional needs.
- Take time for yourself: If possible, carve out time for rest and self-care. This can help you recharge so that you’re better able to support your child.
- Focus on what you can control: It’s okay if things aren’t perfect. Take things one day at a time and let routines help you feel grounded.
- Stay connected: Reach out to someone who makes you feel safe and supported, whether in person or virtually.
- Seek support if needed: If you're struggling, talk to a trusted friend or family member, or seek professional support from your GP.
Ways to cope with anxiety (For parents & children)
Managing anxiety can be challenging, but there are ways to help both you and your child:
- Recognise and understand your worries: Acknowledge your feelings and those of your child.
- Stay active: Keeping both your mind and body active can help relieve anxiety.
- Distraction can help: Find activities that help take your mind off worries.
- Focus on positive things: Notice the good things in your day.
- Relaxation techniques: Try deep breathing, stretching, or engaging in creative activities like drawing or listening to music.
Managing worries during pregnancy
It’s common for expectant parents to experience strong feelings, including worry. Here’s how to manage stress during pregnancy:
- Create a calm environment: Try to maintain a peaceful atmosphere at home.
- Reassure your baby: Even in the womb, babies can sense emotions. You can soothe them by talking, touching your belly, or playing calming music.
- Seek support: If you're feeling overwhelmed, talk to a professional like your midwife or health visitor.
Where to find support
- Phone: 0203 228 7370
- Email: PAIRS_Lambeth@slam.nhs.uk
The Parent and Infant Relationship Service (PAIRS) team provides group and one-to-one support to families.
If you have a baby aged 3-8 months, you may be interested in PAIRS Together Time groups which are run at local children's centres.